I don't think there's any one solution, but we were experiencing similar frustrations with our boy who is nearly 3 also. He was showing all the signs of readiness, but no signs of willingness. It wasn't going well, so I took a month or two off completely. Then, when I was ready to commit completely, I read the following book and applied it:
http://www.amazon.com/Potty-Training-1-2...
We certainly weren't of the ones in this book that can claim to have had their kid trained in a day or two. But we've been at it for about two weeks and we've had several days where he's remained dry and clean the whole day. (He woke up dry today, and stayed dry the whole day.) He's not telling me yet that he needs to go potty, so I just put him on it in normal intervals, and I've gradually noticed that he's become aware enough to 'hold it' until the next time at the potty.
If you read the book, the things that were the most helpful to us were staying home for several days and completely focusing on potty training; giving him extra yummy drinks (for him that was 1/2 inch of apple juic in a cup of water) to make him ready to 'go' a lot (provided practice every half hour!), and picking a really good treat (We don't do sugar, so 2 MM's for staying dry and clean, and 4 MM's for using the potty is HUGE for him.) We had zero success until I gave up the notion of training pants and just put him in underwear and shorts, accepting the fact that we'd get a wet floor now and again (or a lot). Otherwise, we never knew when he'd pee and he never cared. Incidentally, we're having a harder time with pooping on the potty, although we've made great progress. We just have to keep an eye on him and get him to the potty when he starts sneaking off to his poopy corner.
Oh, also, after the first intense day of using this method, he had a huge meltdown first thing the next morning when I told him it was time to sit on the potty. ("I don't want to, I don't like it!!") I knew that my son would never want to or like it, so I had to explain to him that this is the way it was going to be now, and he was going to need to do it anyway. Over the course of the next several days he began to accept that fact, and now he rarely complains. I think he's pretty pleased with himself. It didn't come without conflict, however.
Potty training ideas? We are pulling our hair out. Almost 3 year old girl?
If she isn't willing to do it, it isn't going to happen. All it will do at this point is continue frustrating you and your child and cause more problems. Give up for a month or two and then start over fresh and see if she is more interested. Many children are not potty trained until the age of 3-4 years old. Just don't make a huge deal that she isn't potty trained. If she feels pressured she is just going to balk at it more, because this is one of the few things that she has complete control over. Generally when a child is ready to potty train, they can do it over a weekend or in a weeks time.
Potty training ideas? We are pulling our hair out. Almost 3 year old girl?
I was potty trained at 16 months and my brother at 13 months. I think it is because my parents put the baby potty on their head and we danced around the house. My parents would take me in the potty room with them and clap as they peed in the potty then we would wave bye bye as we flushed. My moms face would be so proud, happy, and excited when we talked about the potty and we sang pee pee in the potty poo poo in the potty all around the house.
I think the excessive positive encouragement and recognition for people who did pee and poo in the body did it for us. Anyone who pees or poos in the potty make a big hype about it and soon enough the 3 year old will want to do it too. JUmp around the house, sing and be funny.
Potty training ideas? We are pulling our hair out. Almost 3 year old girl?
Just relax, wait a month or two, and then try again. There is so much pressure to potty train, but kids will do it when they are ready. I know a boy who didn't train until he was 4, and it was EASY, because he just decided one day that he was going to use the toilet. If you're finding it difficult, your daughter isn't ready, and that's okay.
Potty training ideas? We are pulling our hair out. Almost 3 year old girl?
potty chart!! pick out some awesome stickers and make a chart and hang it up in the bathroom (to her eye level). everytime she potties, she gets a sticker. kids LOVE stickers. i worked in a 3 year old room for 2 years at a daycare and this was perfect! also, let her see how mommy uses the bathroom. another great way is think of some place that she loves to go, for example, mcdonalds. tell her "guess what! tomorrow we are all going to mcdonalds!" let her get excited, ask her what she plans to get to eat and about the playground then say "well you know, we will not be able to go because im scared you might not go to the bathroom like youre suppose to while we are there. if you show me today that you know how to use the potty, we'll go to mcdonalds tomorrow." good luck!
Potty training ideas? We are pulling our hair out. Almost 3 year old girl?
For my daughter, it was very important to her that she do things on her own. She wanted privacy so I researched and found a safe stool with handles for the toilet. http://www.amazon.com/Elite-Child-Corpor...
She could climb right up to the toilet on her own. This stool made all the difference. She has been potty trained a long time and still uses it. Well worth it.
Hope this helps.
Potty training ideas? We are pulling our hair out. Almost 3 year old girl?
The main thing is for you and your wife to be consistent with taking her to the potty. Try taking her every hour on a Saturday when you don't have plans. Make a huge fuss clapping and letting her know how proud you are whenever she does go. Give her something special like a sticker or a lollipop. Try not to stress yourself out, because eventually you know it will happen.
Potty training ideas? We are pulling our hair out. Almost 3 year old girl?
Okay we tried the happy potty bear with the removable diaper. My husband and I sang the "super duper pooper" song like 50 times. Then we tried the 9 birthday parties (Dr. Phils dumb idea) and really awsome sponge bob underwear. We tried guilt, we tries praise, etc. . .One day I put my son on the potty as usual to give him the opportunity to "go", he didn't . . .then we walked over behind the couch and pooped in his pants. Suddenly it hit me. He knew exactly what we was doing, but just didn't want to give in. So I got tough . . . I went in his room and removed all of his toys ( I mean all) and placed them in out spare room. Then I said "Sid, every time you go the potty you can get a toy out of the room. Every time you get the poop in the potty you can get 2 toys out of the room." He had his toys back in just a few days and he's managed to get the poop in the potty ever since. This may seem a bit extreme and I don't know if it works for all kids, but my kid needed to know that I seriously wasn't going to clean up anymore poopy underwear. Hope this helps . . .
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